"A New Therapy for Each Client"
In his influential book The Gift of Therapy (2002), E-H therapist Irv Yalom urged the next generation of therapists to "create a new therapy for each [client]" (p. 34). What does he mean by this?
Yalom goes on to explain that "therapists must convey to the [client] that their paramount task is to build a relationship that will itself become the agent of change," and that "above all, the therapist must be prepared to go wherever the [client] goes, [and] do all that is necessary to continue building trust and safety in the relationship."
Over the course of my ten years of experience as a therapist, clients have consistently valued my relational approach to the work. If you work with me, here are a few things you can count on:
I will build a genuine relationship with you, and I will encourage you to express your deepest, most vulnerable thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment;
I will actively encourage you to reflect with me on the impact of the therapeutic relationship as we work together, so that you can begin to notice ways in which our relationship might echo significant patterns in other relationships in your life;
You will have the power to set our agenda in each session, based on what is most alive for you;
I will offer you close attunement and support, but also challenge you to look at the things that are scary or difficult for you to acknowledge, because I know that it is only in confronting our shadows that we can grow and reclaim our lives.
As an individual depth therapist, my areas of specialization include:
Lifelong patterns of behavior that are not serving you but seem to stick around, despite your best efforts to change;
Childhood wounds and negative self-judgments that stem from early life experiences;
Difficulty finding and maintaining satisfying and healthy relationships;
Problems related to masculinity and what it means to be a man;
Difficulty trusting your instincts and knowing what you genuinely feel